I am such a failure
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I am such a failure
...at fostering! I am good with the whole taking care of the foster pug part, it's the letting go that I suck at!
We have decided that we are going to go ahead and make Duke officially ours. He's been here since last June without much interest (that whole incontinence thing scares people off) and I just can't imagine our home without him now. I'm going to take a break from fostering for awhile & just serve as an emergency back-up. I feel guilty about it because I know how important and scarce foster homes are but with Buster's & Yoda's ongoing health issues, I think it's for the best anyway. So there...I said it...I'm a failure! "Duke the kook" is staying! 
We have decided that we are going to go ahead and make Duke officially ours. He's been here since last June without much interest (that whole incontinence thing scares people off) and I just can't imagine our home without him now. I'm going to take a break from fostering for awhile & just serve as an emergency back-up. I feel guilty about it because I know how important and scarce foster homes are but with Buster's & Yoda's ongoing health issues, I think it's for the best anyway. So there...I said it...I'm a failure! "Duke the kook" is staying! ***********************
Brenda, Buster, Bud, Bella, Duke, Yoda and
our angel Pugsy waiting for us at the Rainbow Bridge
http://www.northernillinoispugrescue.org

PugLady3-  

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Location: Geneva, IL
Re: I am such a failure
YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE!!!
Loving these guys and taking care of them could never be a failure!!
I know just how you feel. My first foster, Bucky, was very hard to give up. I was devastated! But, I made myself do it, so that I could foster again. Luckily, I keep in touch with his new family, and that has helped a lot.
My most recent foster, before the one I have now, was even harder to give up. His name is Frank. Not only was he hard to give up, but I had no warning that he was leaving. I just took him for a meeting...and off he went. I was so upset that I quit fostering for a while. Sometimes, you have to let your heart take a break.
You are wonderful and a blessing for fostering. But, it is just as important that you have decided to give Duke his forever home, and how lucky for him that his home has turned out to be where he's been at all this time.
Don't get down on yourself. I think all of us that foster must go through this kind of stuff.
Loving these guys and taking care of them could never be a failure!!
I know just how you feel. My first foster, Bucky, was very hard to give up. I was devastated! But, I made myself do it, so that I could foster again. Luckily, I keep in touch with his new family, and that has helped a lot.
My most recent foster, before the one I have now, was even harder to give up. His name is Frank. Not only was he hard to give up, but I had no warning that he was leaving. I just took him for a meeting...and off he went. I was so upset that I quit fostering for a while. Sometimes, you have to let your heart take a break.
You are wonderful and a blessing for fostering. But, it is just as important that you have decided to give Duke his forever home, and how lucky for him that his home has turned out to be where he's been at all this time.
Don't get down on yourself. I think all of us that foster must go through this kind of stuff.
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ReneƩ
Mom to Tobey, Ichiro & Skeeter

Renee-  

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Location: Anchorage Alaska
Re: I am such a failure
Congratulations Brenda, that's great!!!
If you're going to be a failure, at least it's a foster failure : )
If you're going to be a failure, at least it's a foster failure : )
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Becky, Mom to Tyson, LuLu & Mac

Tyson&LuLu'sMom-  

- Number of posts: 1683
Location: Rockford, IL
Re: I am such a failure
Congrats!!! Foster failures are the best failures around!! 

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Maryjo and The Fat Pugs of Alaska!
Odie Gus Gus, Bozlee, Chloe & Rocky!
and waiting at the Bridge, those special ones who've gone before me-
Dino, Butchie, Muffin, Louisie, Thelma, Gumpy, Beau...
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"J'embrasse mon chien sur la bouche!" (I kiss my dog on the mouth.) - Author unknown
Re: I am such a failure
Congratulations!!!
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Saira
The Pugs: Hooligan, Indiana Jones, and Sophie
The cats: Dino and Mickey
Southern Nevada Pug Rescue: www.rescuepugs.com
Re: I am such a failure
We need to see a pic of Duke the Kook!
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Donna-  

- Number of posts: 1188
Location: Upstate NY
Re: I am such a failure
What a big sucker
Congrats on adopting Duke. It is great that he wormed his way into your hearts! By the way, would you like to foster an adorable almost 2 year old pug/brussels griffon mix named Tinker????? ha ha

leslyeb-  

- Number of posts: 403
Location: Mt. Juliet, TN
Re: I am such a failure
Congratulations! I know Duke will continue to be one happy pug for the rest of his life.
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"If I were a pediatrician and a mother told me, "it's just too hard making healthy food everyday for my kid, I'm just going to feed Total cereal everyday, it's 100% nutritionally complete," we'd all feel sorry for her kid. I am a vet, and when people tell me "I've found a really good dry food, I think I'll feed it everyday for the rest of my pets life," why don't we feel equally sad?" Dr. Karen Becker.

Not Afraid-  

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Location: Long Beach, CA
Re: I am such a failure
That's wonderful Brenda - congrats! 

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Rona, Imi and Pearl, living Downunder in the Great Southern Land.
Keeping in my heart forever, my beloved Puck and LouLou who crossed the bridge in recent years, and from the early days and always missed - Piaff, Donato, Persia, Dragon and Smugsy. And my horses Madam and Woolfie. Each one of you has taken a piece of my heart. xxxxx

Aussie Witch-  

- Number of posts: 3613
Location: The Antipodes.
Re: I am such a failure
YAY for Duke and for you!
I, of course, have never failed at fostering. No sirree.
I, of course, have never failed at fostering. No sirree.
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Blanche, Mom to Tank, Hazel and Theo. (dogs) and Sonny and Angel (cats). Foster mom to Pippin
Rescue Coordinator for Pugalug Pug Rescue.
Always missing Bob, Scout, Pete, Maude and Lola
If you can't afford the vet, you can't afford the pet.[u]
Re: I am such a failure
I have to second the "YAY!" for both you & Duke. He's a lucky dude!
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Allie, Jessie, Angel, Bello & Dre
TxAllieGrl-  

- Number of posts: 3022
Location: Fort Worth, TX
Re: I am such a failure
northernwitch wrote:YAY for Duke and for you!
I, of course, have never failed at fostering. No sirree.
Me either, Blanche. I stick to my guns! (yeah... right...)
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Maryjo and The Fat Pugs of Alaska!
Odie Gus Gus, Bozlee, Chloe & Rocky!
and waiting at the Bridge, those special ones who've gone before me-
Dino, Butchie, Muffin, Louisie, Thelma, Gumpy, Beau...
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"J'embrasse mon chien sur la bouche!" (I kiss my dog on the mouth.) - Author unknown
Re: I am such a failure
That's the best kind of failure to be! Congrats to you and Duke. 


Brenda-  

- Number of posts: 1153
Location: Atlanta, GA
Re: I am such a failure
Well, I don't see it as a failure. I see it as Duke finding the perfect home, and it taking a while for everyone to recognize it. Congratulations to both of you! 

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Nancy, Mom to Penny Lane, my perfect diva
If you think dogs can't count, try putting three dog biscuits in your pocket and then give him only two of them.
-Phil Pastoret
Friends are the family we choose for ourselves.

Pugsaunt-  

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Location: On the shores of Penny's Marina in Sparks, NV
Re: I am such a failure
A failure of the very best kind. Congrats to you both! 

H the P-  

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Location: Essex, England
Re: I am such a failure

For some reason, I can only get pictures to post at the beginning of my messages. I must be doing something wrong, but haven't figured it out yet.
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Brenda, Buster, Bud, Bella, Duke, Yoda and
our angel Pugsy waiting for us at the Rainbow Bridge
http://www.northernillinoispugrescue.org

PugLady3-  

- Number of posts: 751
Location: Geneva, IL
Re: I am such a failure
I think quite the opposite! You are a huge success at taking care of and loving pugs.

sallyandtilly-  

- Number of posts: 1459
Location: Colorado
Re: I am such a failure
Congratulations!
I love foster failures. 
I love foster failures. ***********************
Cathy
Bubba Chunk, Gentleman and Scholar
Sparky Boo Boo, the Pug Mutt
Liza and Laura, the Lovey Twins
Lucy the Beagledor
Dino Bambino, Lawless Terrier
And remembering Whompin Stompin Walter, Big Roxie, Baney the Wonder Pug and Sweet Rascal Joe playing at the Bridge.

Tocents-  

- Number of posts: 306
Location: USA
Re: I am such a failure
Awwww, we've all been there! Just ask Hank!!! I think it's great! He was there for a reason and he needed to stay apparently!

TNPUGMOMOF3-  

- Number of posts: 1026
Location: Jackson, TN
Re: I am such a failure
Congratulations on being a foster failure! 

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Kathy
Owned by Bugs, Bear, Smokey Joe, Frankie, Miss B,
Carmen, Billy, Sydney & Humphrey
Bailey, Percy, Dodo Bird and Prince (cat) are forever in our hearts
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PugLady3 on 2/24/2010, 4:10 pm
