My First foster is here..pics

Well, I have had some experience with hyper females, LoL. With Sophie, my boys weren't that happy with her at first. She did annoy them, and there were quite a few squabbles (between her and Indy-Hooli just looked sad). However, like Marci said the energy level did then adjust, my boys stepped up their activity, really learned how to tell her to bug off, and she learned to pick up on those cues. But Sophie was also good at entertaining herself if we all had enough, I would put her in her room with nylabones and she'd be fine.

I also fostered a pug named Izzy awhile back. She was also super active. Now, I don't know why there was a difference between my boys with her and with Sophie because honestly, I don't think Izzy was THAT much more hyper than Sophie but there was something about her that really depressed my boys. Everything she did annoyed them, and they did not tolerate her. We had her for over a month too, and that never changed.

So my answer is-she could calm down and everyone can get along, or it might not. It is hard to tell. Sophie will be 2 in December, and she actually IS less active at times, or maybe we are all just used to her now.

Well, she will calm down - eventually. As you said, she's just a baby, so it may take a few years, literally.

Honestly, your first foster is always the hardest. I really think you have to think of your two first. I am fostering a little girl who I adore - and she is so attached to me it's unreal. But, there's no way I am going to keep her as I feel it's not fair to my two. Dewey is my shadow and this little girl is really stealing his mommy time and you can just see in his face he's not happy.

Now, unless you want to adopt two and adopt another young one so those two can play and leave Rupert and Viv alone.

Saira, I was hoping to get your input. There have many squabbles in our house in the past week, they just are not to happy about her energy.
Sunday will be the one day that we will all be home together so I can see if they get on better. I don't know if by me bringing her to work is making it worse, when she gets home and sees them she just goes nuts.
She is not making mine have any more energy, I think she is just depressing them.

Brenda wrote:
Now, unless you want to adopt two and adopt another young one so those two can play and leave Rupert and Viv alone.

yea now that's a thought! then evernight I'll be a lot more than I do already!

Donna wrote:Saira, I was hoping to get your input. There have many squabbles in our house in the past week, they just are not to happy about her energy.
Sunday will be the one day that we will all be home together so I can see if they get on better. I don't know if by me bringing her to work is making it worse, when she gets home and sees them she just goes nuts.
She is not making mine have any more energy, I think she is just depressing them.

We have had some pugs that we have fallen in love with that for some reason or not, they just didn't click. It's the hardest when you love them but your pugs don't! With Izzy, Ken was in love with her and I know he would have wanted to keep her, but seeing how much she affected our boys, we knew we couldn't. Like I said, with her, I just don't know what it was-it wasn't even that there were fights, it was like she had so much energy, it sucked the energy out of our boys. When we had her, they also stopped playing with each other, which broke our heart. Sophie did what Marci talked about-added life TO them in some way, Hooli plays like a puppy, Indy chases her around. And I don't even know what the difference between the two were. It's a tough decision, I know!

And that's not to say it couldn't work, it just might take a lot of time.

It is going to break my heart but I am not going to keep her.
I woke up at 4:00 this morning thinking this, then for the first time EVER Rupert growled at me when I went to move him while he had a chewy. She are stressing them out to no end. Rupert is peeing all over the place and someone peed on our futon.
I know it might eventually resolve itself but I don't know if I can hang in there that long.
I know this is the right thing to do, she is only my first foster and I would like to be able to foster again.
I know she will get a good home that is meant for her.
Please tell me I am doing the right thing.

You ARE doing the right thing... she will be loved and find a great home because you stepped in and showed her how great life is going to be.. She will adapt to her new home - as many times as she needs to... And when the right one comes along for V and R and you.. it will be clear...

(It is NOT like you are sending her some place where she will be unloved!)

ayleash wrote:You ARE doing the right thing... she will be loved and find a great home because you stepped in and showed her how great life is going to be.. She will adapt to her new home - as many times as she needs to... And when the right one comes along for V and R and you.. it will be clear...

(It is NOT like you are sending her some place where she will be unloved!)

I know, its just heart wrenching! I'm a big wuss when it comes to these guys ( you've seen that!)
There is going to be a very lucky home that gets her.

Yes, you are doing the right thing. The first foster is so hard. And,
if you do want to continue to foster, then by all means you are doing
the right thing. Your two will be so much happier with your decision.

you are absolutely 100% doing the right thing. It's tough being a foster parent! Hell, I only had my last foster 5 days and fell completely in love with him, but I knew I couldn't keep him. good job as a foster parent - btw!

as far as her energy, I was just thinking last night how hyper Zoe was when I first got her at 6mos. I couldn't wait for her to calm down a bit. That didn't happen until year 3. Monday she turns 5 and she's like a lump. LOL

I know it's hard and fostering isn't easy, but maybe now that you've experienced your first foster, it'll help with the others.

Brenda wrote:Yes, you are doing the right thing. The first foster is so hard. And,
if you do want to continue to foster, then by all means you are doing
the right thing. Your two will be so much happier with your decision.

I agree. Fostering is hard, and honestly, almost every foster you go through the "should I keep them" discussion (at least I always do). The good thing is you know there is a perfect home for her where everyone will be happy, AND, you made a huge difference in her life by fostering. Fostering is the hardest part of rescue, and you did good.

Absolutely you are doing the right thing. It is hard, I can't imagine how hard. And you are being a great foster mom and pugmom.

Thanks, for making me feel better. I already got a call from a guy in New Hampshire who has a one eyed apricot wild girl and needs a playmate for her. We are going to meet next Sat and see how they get on, if so then she will go with him.
My husband is now upset because he fell for her and thinks we should wait it out but I know deep down she needs a crazy playmate.
UGH, this is so heartbreaking, I don't know how you all do it time and time again.
I'm sad already and she isn't even gone.

Donna - tough decision, and you are doing the right thing. I know it's hard, just know that you're doing what's right for all of you. There will be others...

I will be honest, it sucks big time each and every time a foster leaves. I am on #12 and I am a total mess each and every time!!! Amber can testify as she has been invovled in a few of the transports and always gets stuck with me sobbing! It's cause she is so close... I know that the happy times and the wonderfull happy updates from the new families are what makes it all worth it! I also know there is another out there that will need me more than I need to keep another foster. I love all of them like they are my own and that is what they need. I am at my dog/pug LIMIT!!! I have 3 pugs and a BIG pug (mastiff) and even if I wanted to keep another, and I would have kept Emmitt in a heartbeat, there is WAY too much dog at my house as it is. One foster is good, but I last had two at once and they were both young and both crazy and they were a handfull! It is great to foster and if she were going to fit, you would have known it right away. There are fosters who are easy cause they just melt in with your own and there are fosters that are great, but are more work none the less. Fostering is so important right now for ALL rescues that if you aren't willing to keep fostering after you've added another to your family, then keep fostering for now!

GORGEOUS!!!! She looks like she could be a trouble maker and then look at you with that face and get away with it!

I have her here with my at work and she is just having a ball, I looked her and said if only you could be this great at home you could have stayed.
I am keeping her for another week and its going to kill me. I have had my heart in my throat all morning, it's not a good thing to be weepy at work, luckily I can hide myself in my office most of the day.
The adoption coordinator for GMPR told me the first one is the hardest, it still bad with some but there is something about the first.
I still want to foster but hope I have thick enough skin to do it.

Donna wrote:I have her here with my at work and she is just having a ball, I looked her and said if only you could be this great at home you could have stayed.
I am keeping her for another week and its going to kill me. I have had my heart in my throat all morning, it's not a good thing to be weepy at work, luckily I can hide myself in my office most of the day.
The adoption coordinator for GMPR told me the first one is the hardest, it still bad with some but there is something about the first.
I still want to foster but hope I have thick enough skin to do it.

Donna, you will. I do believe the first one is the hardest. My first foster was so hard. I did his adoption and I was bawling on my way home. Actually, all of them are hard, because they are so special in their own ways, and you always have that guilt about letting them go. But the best part is when you see how happy you made their new owner. I have become friends with a lot of the people who have adopted my former fosters, and I know everyone is happy with the decisions.

You will probably cry with each and every foster. My first foster was a 4 month old little female. My guys were 6 at the time, and Pugsly seemed to really like her while Taz absolutely hated her. I fostered for 2 yrs before keeping Chyna. I cried each time, and I would often go with another one of nipra's foster mom's who would also cry. It does help a bunch when you are able to meet the family and see how much they already adore the pug within minutes. There may be many whom you love a bunch but may not be good for your other two pugs.

Marci wrote:.... I also know there is another out there that will need me more than I need to keep another foster. I love all of them like they are my own and that is what they need.

The first black hi-lighted sentence of Marci's says it all. There will ALWAYS be another foster out there that will need you.

And the sentence I changed to red says it all for me. Those pugs who are in rescue need to know someone loves them, until their forever home comes along, they have to be loved and cherished and helped along the correct path to their inner 'fawness'.

Marci was a mess when she left Chloe up here. Chloe loves me and considers me her mama now, but I am always sending updates to Marci, or posting here, so she sees how her love turned a puppymill scared pug girl into the black pug diva we knew she always could be. I'll be forever grateful for the opportunity to love this wacky, wild girl.

PS: Thank you, foster parents, everywhere for what you do.