I am such a failure
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I am such a failure
...at fostering! I am good with the whole taking care of the foster pug part, it's the letting go that I suck at!
We have decided that we are going to go ahead and make Duke officially ours. He's been here since last June without much interest (that whole incontinence thing scares people off) and I just can't imagine our home without him now. I'm going to take a break from fostering for awhile & just serve as an emergency back-up. I feel guilty about it because I know how important and scarce foster homes are but with Buster's & Yoda's ongoing health issues, I think it's for the best anyway. So there...I said it...I'm a failure! "Duke the kook" is staying! 
We have decided that we are going to go ahead and make Duke officially ours. He's been here since last June without much interest (that whole incontinence thing scares people off) and I just can't imagine our home without him now. I'm going to take a break from fostering for awhile & just serve as an emergency back-up. I feel guilty about it because I know how important and scarce foster homes are but with Buster's & Yoda's ongoing health issues, I think it's for the best anyway. So there...I said it...I'm a failure! "Duke the kook" is staying! 
PugLady3-  

- Number of posts: 2236
Location: Geneva, IL
Re: I am such a failure
YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE!!!
Loving these guys and taking care of them could never be a failure!!
I know just how you feel. My first foster, Bucky, was very hard to give up. I was devastated! But, I made myself do it, so that I could foster again. Luckily, I keep in touch with his new family, and that has helped a lot.
My most recent foster, before the one I have now, was even harder to give up. His name is Frank. Not only was he hard to give up, but I had no warning that he was leaving. I just took him for a meeting...and off he went. I was so upset that I quit fostering for a while. Sometimes, you have to let your heart take a break.
You are wonderful and a blessing for fostering. But, it is just as important that you have decided to give Duke his forever home, and how lucky for him that his home has turned out to be where he's been at all this time.
Don't get down on yourself. I think all of us that foster must go through this kind of stuff.
Loving these guys and taking care of them could never be a failure!!
I know just how you feel. My first foster, Bucky, was very hard to give up. I was devastated! But, I made myself do it, so that I could foster again. Luckily, I keep in touch with his new family, and that has helped a lot.
My most recent foster, before the one I have now, was even harder to give up. His name is Frank. Not only was he hard to give up, but I had no warning that he was leaving. I just took him for a meeting...and off he went. I was so upset that I quit fostering for a while. Sometimes, you have to let your heart take a break.
You are wonderful and a blessing for fostering. But, it is just as important that you have decided to give Duke his forever home, and how lucky for him that his home has turned out to be where he's been at all this time.
Don't get down on yourself. I think all of us that foster must go through this kind of stuff.
Re: I am such a failure
Congratulations Brenda, that's great!!!
If you're going to be a failure, at least it's a foster failure : )
If you're going to be a failure, at least it's a foster failure : )

Tyson&LuLu'sMom-  

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Location: Illinois
Re: I am such a failure
We need to see a pic of Duke the Kook!
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Donna-  

- Number of posts: 3369
Location: Upstate NY
Re: I am such a failure
What a big sucker
Congrats on adopting Duke. It is great that he wormed his way into your hearts! By the way, would you like to foster an adorable almost 2 year old pug/brussels griffon mix named Tinker????? ha ha

leslyeb-  

- Number of posts: 643
Location: Mt. Juliet, TN
Re: I am such a failure
Congratulations! I know Duke will continue to be one happy pug for the rest of his life.

Not Afraid-  

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Location: Long Beach, CA
Re: I am such a failure
That's wonderful Brenda - congrats! 


Aussie Witch-  

- Number of posts: 7859
Location: The Antipodes.
Re: I am such a failure
YAY for Duke and for you!
I, of course, have never failed at fostering. No sirree.
I, of course, have never failed at fostering. No sirree.
Re: I am such a failure
I have to second the "YAY!" for both you & Duke. He's a lucky dude!
TxAllieGrl-  

- Number of posts: 5774
Location: Fort Worth, TX
Re: I am such a failure
northernwitch wrote:YAY for Duke and for you!
I, of course, have never failed at fostering. No sirree.
Me either, Blanche. I stick to my guns! (yeah... right...)
Re: I am such a failure
That's the best kind of failure to be! Congrats to you and Duke. 


Brenda-  

- Number of posts: 2006
Location: Atlanta, GA
Re: I am such a failure
Well, I don't see it as a failure. I see it as Duke finding the perfect home, and it taking a while for everyone to recognize it. Congratulations to both of you! 


Pugsaunt-  

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Re: I am such a failure
A failure of the very best kind. Congrats to you both! 

H the P-  

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Location: Essex, England
Re: I am such a failure

For some reason, I can only get pictures to post at the beginning of my messages. I must be doing something wrong, but haven't figured it out yet.

PugLady3-  

- Number of posts: 2236
Location: Geneva, IL
Re: I am such a failure
I think quite the opposite! You are a huge success at taking care of and loving pugs.

sallyandtilly-  

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Location: Colorado
Re: I am such a failure
Congratulations!
I love foster failures. 
I love foster failures. 
Tocents-  

- Number of posts: 512
Location: USA
Re: I am such a failure
Awwww, we've all been there! Just ask Hank!!! I think it's great! He was there for a reason and he needed to stay apparently!

TNPUGMOMOF3-  

- Number of posts: 1783
Location: Memphis, TN
Re: I am such a failure
Congratulations on being a foster failure! 


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